Love is a feeling that can occur for anyone. But when it occurs for some close friend it becomes tricky and confusing to express it. The repercussions are quiet unpredictable. It can swing both ways i.e. either you lose the faith, fun and smile of your friend for you or you won in giving a new shape to your relation.
When someone had a crush on a friend for a long time, it is not wise to bombard the feelings in a hasty manner. Friendship is a calm relation like a stagnant pond. When you throw a stone in it, it vibrates the whole pond. So don’t give such shock to your friend. The better way is to warm your friend up into love right way. Your friend might fall in love with you and then tell. Every four out of five cases are turned down. It is not because your friend doesn’t love you but because – found no reason to look at you as a potential date. The result is very embarrassing and painful. Heart beats fast and head full of surprise, frustration and sadness. Flash back of old memories that you shared and loved along with this bitter result adds to your panic. It means sudden and unexpected proposal of love is just shocking. Another way is that you get drunk and empty your heart. Some people label it as punch drunk love. Your friend might consider it or may not react thinking that you are drunk.
CREATING THE PERFECT SETTING FOR LOVE
The best way is to do it in a subtle manner. First of all begin with a little flirt and then observe if you get anything reciprocating back. Although it is not easy to trust the response as friends often take it in a casual way. There is no sure short sign to test the genuine response that means your friend is looking at a new side of you. Second, don’t behave as a doormat or throw yourself at their feet. Begging for love will bear no results. Instead have fun and give lot of space to your crush. Let your friend miss you and know that being with you is a fun and something that they enjoy. Let your friend feel your absence when you are not there. Thirdly get your moves at right time. Strike when your friend has got enough of hint to wonder. Fourthly, be brave, find a quiet moment and invite your friend to go out with you sometime as more than friends. Don,t exert pressure. If your friend refuses, be happy to remain as good friends. Don,t trail along like you have got no one else. Make sure your life doesn,t revolve around this friend. Scrap it down as an experience. Have fun with others and find someone who fancies you just as much as you fancy them.
