How to handle a friend who makes you feel lesser, lesser of a person and brings you down. People those do this, its very very settle. You feel just bad after you finished talking to them, you don’t really know why? and I used to say just distance yourself. But this is a friend you have them from a long time and you don’t necessarily want to get her/him completely out of your life.
So what do you say and what do you do?
Why not do exactly the opposite what he or she is doing. And that is if she tries to bring you down say she says “Hey, ohh what you did to your hair”, and another second “oh I love your hair and what did you do?”. No its like “Ahh, what you did to your hair?” or “you sure that goes with that.” Its little settle things. Whatever it is, it could be about your parents or about something you just did. And you run up to them and just say “I got the promotion.” And they are like “Oh, really? L, why they didn’t give to the other guy, I’m just kidding, you know what I’m talking about?”. It’s like very settle. They are just digging at you slowly but surely. So how do you handle that.
Again do the opposite try to bring them up as much as they are trying to bring you down. Instead of saying “what you are talking about” just say “You know what pink looks really good on you, I think you should wear more pink.” Something like that, something to make them feel good about themselves.
And you do that just right after they try to bring you down. So that they get in their head may be my behavior isn’t acceptable because the message you are sending is they are not going to able to bring you down because you are positive person. Because remember you can’t control how they act but you can control how they affect you. So no matters what they say. You gonna stay up, you gonna stay positive because that’s you. You are positive person and no one can make you feel bad about yourself. And you could keep trying this. If it doesn’t work because sometimes there are fundamentally wrong with their self esteem.
There may be jealousy; they want your life or whatever. So if doesn’t work then you have to distance yourself, it’s not that you have to completely eliminate this person from your life not at all. But just take a step back and put them in a back burner because remember friendship is a two ways tree, no one wants toxic friends who takes too much energy just being around and make you feel bad and just like you don’t know why? Just leave the conversation, just train yourself emotionally, actually that is not a friend. So try if it doesn’t work then we look for the alternative solutions.